I recently attended a support group session that was hosted by the clinic where I had my surgery. The focus was on finding healthier ways to heal your heart rather than turning to food to feel good about yourself. It was a really good session, very thought provoking.
I've been replaying something the doctor touched on. In order to heal our hearts we have to forgive ourselves and what may have happened in the past. Someone in the group mentioned that she has a very hard time forgiving. According to the doctor and these were her words - as twisted as it may sound we are get something from holding on, from not being able to let go or forgive. I've been asking myself ever since; what have I been holding on to and what am I getting from it? Although I've been thinking about it, I haven't been able to answer the question or rather I'm not ready to answer the question. I'll keep working on it.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
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Heavy stuff but I completely agree. Letting go is the hardest thing to do. I've found you can forgive without forgetting and that's more damaging than the other way around. Doing both is hard...but it's necessary to truly move forward. I wish you peace on your journey in answering the question.
ReplyDeleteDr. Phil says that all the time. What's your payoff? Seems crazy but it's usually try though hard to admit. I hope you find your answers. Good job soul searching - not everyone has the courage to do it.
ReplyDeleteThat's why I'm seriously considering therapy before or along with the lapband. For me, I think successful weightloss is 80% in my head/heart. It is a very scarey thing.
ReplyDeleteGood luck and peace to you.